Because the budget is obviously tight, we're doing a lot ourselves. DD and her fiance, both of whom have been on their own and working for a couple years, are shouldering a big chunk of the costs - so DD is just as concerned with the bottom line as I am. She's making her own invitations and has called on friends to help out with the ceremony. A friend of her brother's will play the piano and a dear friend of mine has offered to direct. All of these little savings add up. The deeper we get into planning, the more I am amazed at how much people really do spend on weddings.
We hit the gold mine the other day when the friend who is directing asked if we would like to borrow any of the decorations she has collected. Not having any idea if that meant crepe paper and pinatas or what, we headed over to check out her supply closet ... and we came home with four HUGE boxes! We now have enough votive candle holders, larger centerpieces, decorative pebbles/gems/mirrors and other such goodies to turn the reception into a thing of beauty. I am so grateful for her generosity.
This weekend we're going to meet with a florist at the grocery store to talk bouquets. We've already decided to keep flowers to a minimum. We'll only be getting bride and bridesmaid bouquets and the boutonnieres made "professionally." We're planning to pick up some lovely mums at the farmers' market for the church and to make our own loose bouquets of seasonal flowers for the moms and grandmothers to carry.
It's so easy to go overboard. But I also know that this wedding will be even more special because we are putting so much of ourselves into every detail. I will say, though, I'm relieved I will only be the mother of the bride once. My hat is off to those of you with more than one daughter!