Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Kim is calling me names

Yes, Kim is calling me a sneak for updating my totals and not posting. I'm just impressed she went and looked! You see, we are in a race to get out of six figures. I know we are going to make it ... and I know it will be sooner rather than later. Come on, Kim, we have so got this!!!

I haven't posted in awhile. I've been fighting battles to keep services for DS. He turns 21 next month and, apparently, the forces that be think that adults with disabilities need FEWER services than children who have parents to care for them. As of this morning, I appear to be losing the battle. Contrary to everything his new case manager has told us, he is set to have his caregiving hours cut in half tomorrow. I've talked to everyone under the sun and have gotten a different answer every time. Now, after months of paperwork to make the transition, it looks like a fire has been lit to get him processed today. And it leaves us in the dust.

You know, I see parents micro-managing the lives of their kids who are college age and older, and I wonder what the appeal is. I would love to be able to send my child off into the world and let him face it on his own.

Yeah, in my dreams.


Tuesday, September 2, 2014

The ups and downs of an old van

So, two weeks ago I went to the drive-through at the credit union ... and my window wouldn't roll down. I mean, nothing. Might as well have been a brick wall. I waved to the teller and drove around to park and go inside.

Now, as soon as a window won't roll down, you want to use it. All. The. Time. And the little voice in your head starts telling you to just take it to the dealer and pay whatever they want to get it fixed.

But I haven't had time to pay attention to the voice in my head, but I did find myself pushing the window button a couple of times whenever I was in the van. And, believe it or not, yesterday I pushed that button and the window rolled down!!

I've decided this was a test. Glad I passed.


Saturday, August 16, 2014

He paid what????

My father-in-law turned 80 this month. He lives on the other side of the country, but flew here for the occasion. DH and his brother decided to throw him a party - which, of course, means that I was the one throwing the party since all family parties end up being at my house. But that's OK. I gave assignments and it all came together well.

Since the men apparently lack imagination, I came up with the idea of making a poster with a timeline of his life and some fun facts - like what things cost in '34. I bought a cardboard trifold from Target and spent a bit of time printing out things to put on it. It turned out nice and FIL loved it. So much that he wanted to take it to display in his home (trust me when I say it probably fits the decor). I wasn't expecting this, though, and had to quickly scan MY photographs that were on it before letting DH ship it off. 

And that's where the happy story ends. It's the other side of the country and it was a sizable piece of cardboard. But it is cardboard. Wrap it up and send it off. I figured worst case it would cost about $35 and chalked it up to being part of his present. Yeah, so DH comes home and says - without blinking - that he paid $103 to ship a piece of cardboard. One. Hundred. Dollars. I cannot even fathom what was going through his head. I KNOW there were less expensive options.

But I'm sucking it up because it makes FIL happy. Even if I'm not. 


Monday, July 28, 2014

And there goes the snowball ...

I'm at home, but my van is not. I got up early this morning to be first in line at the shop for an oil change/tire rotation etc. We also thought it might be leaking coolant so I wanted them to check that out. Of course the radiator needs to be replaced. And some work was needed on the brakes. One of the guys gave me a ride home and I'm waiting for a call that it is ready to pick up.

Total bill is going to come close to $700. Ouch. I have a check coming for a little over that amount for some articles I've written this month, so it looks like it will already be spent before it gets here (using the emergency fund in the meantime). So much for a snowball for American Express.

Oh well. The van is 9.5 years old and still chugging along. And it's still cheaper than a monthly payment!

DS's new glasses cost $350 - his eyes are so bad and his lenses so specialized that I can't use the cheapie places. .... Big expenses this month - I guess I should be happy it's almost over!

Happy Monday everyone,


Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Paying attention to retirement

When we started this journey, retirement was the last thing on our minds. While we had a 401k, we stopped contributing out of necessity and basically ignored it.

This summer has seen such a boost in our discretionary income that it occurred to me (duh!) that we might need to rethink our lack of action. So I finally went online and really looked at the account. Overall, it's in pretty good shape. Most of the investments we chose (and who knows how we picked those?) are averaging 11% returns in the long-term. One, however, only averages 5% and then there is the stable fund that we allocated too much to. So I spent yesterday doing some shifting of the funds currently there as well as future contributions.

We also decided to start contributing 2% from DH's paycheck. It's not a lot, but it's a start.

I'm so guilty of just putting financial decisions on auto-pilot and not checking up on them once in awhile. I need to be better about that. Next on my list is finding a lawyer who can help us with our will. While we have one in place, it's out of date and we need to make sure we are covering the bases for DS.

It's threatening to reach 100 degrees today. Hope you all are cooler!


Thursday, June 26, 2014

A turning point

Three and a half years into this blog and we've reached a milestone: We are finally able to throw snowballs at this stupid debt!

Prior to this, the minimums have consumed all of our income. When we first started this, we didn't really even have enough to cover the minimums. We were candidates for bankruptcy. We couldn't keep our heads above water.

But thanks to putting several cards into Bank Liquidation Programs, with lower interest rates and a set monthly payment for five years, we kept up. Early on, that sometimes meant robbing Peter to pay Paul - using a balance transfer from one card to cover the payment on the next.

But here we are, several years later and tens of thousands less in debt, and we are finally seeing real progress. I attribute it to a combination of factors: I have picked up some small freelance jobs that are bringing in just enough to make a difference; and as balances have dropped, so have the amount of interest we are paying and the minimums due. The balances of our accounts were all so insanely high to begin with that we have only been able to pay off one account in full in all this time.

I think we can count on at least an extra $300 a month to throw at the debt on top of the minimums. The current target is the American Express card, because it is not in a BLP and the interest rate is ridiculous. I want to be close to getting rid of this one by the end of the year. We'll see how it works out.

I remember not so very long ago not being able to sleep at night worrying how I would pay this month's bills. I don't do that anymore.

For anyone ready to throw in the towel: Don't. There are better times ahead and I know now we are going to get there.


Saturday, June 7, 2014

Can they do this?

Just checked my Union Plus account to make sure a payment posted and happened to notice that my credit limit had been raised ... $5,000!!

I do not remember receiving any notice of this change and, frankly, am irked that they did this. I checked my last statement and there was nothing there about raising the limit.

In fact, I have received several offers lately from other cards to have my limit raised and have ignored them. And while I would never deliberately agree to it, I'm tempted to just leave it as is and go on with my life. We don't use the card anymore - I'm not even sure we still have the actual card. The higher limit would, I imagine, be good for the credit score as it would lower the debt to credit ratio.

I don't know. Mostly it reminds me how much I hate credit cards and the game the companies play with consumers. I cannot wait until the day when I no longer have a credit card balance!!