Life goes on

A lot has happened since I last posted.

We took the trip to the medical conference for DS2. The conference was fabulous, he was able to network with more adults than he has ever met with his disease, and he did a great job speaking on the closing panel.

The plane trip, not so much. As you may remember, I was nervous about flying with the wheelchair for the first time. I did everything possible to prepare. I contacted the airline. I booked the easiest flights I could find. I bubble wrapped the heck out of the chair. I taped notes showing where to pick it up, how to set the brakes, and - most importantly - a big one that said the chair weighs 415 pounds so be careful!

The process of getting DS on and off the plane multiple times was anxiety-inducing enough. I counted 10 transfers by the time we reached our destination and awaited delivery of the chair.

I saw it coming. And I could tell it was not good. The arm was bent so badly inward that there was no way to get DS in it. Upon inspection, it was clear the chair had been dropped, likely on the tarmac, on its side. Goes without saying that it was the side with the electronics. Miraculously, DS's caregiver was able to pull back the arm into a usable position and the chair still turned on. He couldn't use his tray - which holds his cell phone and his only means to contact people - but he could drive it. We filed a report and went on our way.

On the return trip, we had a nonstop red-eye flight. We arrived in plenty of time, sailed through security and got settled on the plane. Ten minutes later, we were told we had to deplane due to mechanical issues. More transfers. Back to the chair, which the airline had now had for 20 minutes. A man in a suit accompanied it with an apology that they had dropped it. Again. More damage. We departed four hours late and by this time I had no faith at all that the chair would be in the same condition when we arrived home. I was correct. This time, I got to watch from the plane as the chair was dropped on the tarmac by the two guys who didn't bother to read the note stating its weight. We added to the report and headed home. Our wheelchair guy was able to find used parts to get it working for the time being and the airline's third-party company is supposedly coordinating the purchase of new parts and repairs.

Needless to say, DS is done with flying.

Two other major events have occurred. The first is that I started a new part-time job! I'm able to work from home copy editing, which was my career before having to leave to care for DS. So far I am loving it and the extra income is greatly appreciated.

The other event is more somber. My husband's brother has been battling colon cancer for some time. He is now in his final days (today might actually be the day). My in-laws and their youngest son arrived this morning and are staying with us. BIL will have to sleep on the couch as I am out of beds.  Our church is providing some meals. I took them to the Hospice Home this morning and they are still there. It's very hard to watch someone die, but it will be a blessing as he is in such pain.

We are living highs and lows around here. We are two weeks out from DS1's wedding. I'm trying to keep that upbeat and exciting for him despite what is happening with his uncle.

On the financial front, I have been hitting the first student loan hard. I have it down below $1,000 now and plan to have it gone in the next couple months. Then on to the next one! Trying to shrink that debt list!

Sarah
 

It never hurts to ask

DS2 turns 26 this year, that magic number when big kiddos are dropped like hot potatoes from the parental health insurance. I started wondering whether there were any concessions to the rule for disabled adults who are still dependents, so a month or so ago I called our insurance company. After some back and forth, I was given a short list of what they needed: his marital status, a letter detailing his disability from his doctor and a copy of our tax returns (I think to see whether we claim him as a dependent, which we do.). I faxed those over to a black hole and didn't think much more about it. Honestly, I expected it to be a no-go.

Today, a letter came saying he meets their requirements and they have extended his coverage for three more years, at which time we can reapply. I am blown away that it happened so quickly and without the drama that usually accompanies these requests. Now I can breathe easy until 2022!

We followed that up with a trip to the oral surgeon as his dentist had recommended he have a wisdom tooth removed that is growing in wonky. The surgeon didn't take long to put those plans on hold. The tooth isn't causing any problems now and it was clear to him that DS presents some challenges that he didn't want to risk unnecessarily. DS wheeled out of that office like his chair was on fire - not often that he goes for a consult and surgery is taken off the table!

All in all, not a bad day. Kind of makes up for the fact that it is nearing 97 degrees and it is still May.

Hope it's cooler wherever you are!

Sarah
 

Creeping toward the end

Our ticker is below $40,000!! When I look where we started, even I am blown away that we are successfully beating down the monster. Back in the beginning, when I was forced to call creditors and negotiate payment plans, more than one of them strongly suggested we declare bankruptcy and move on. We don't fault those who choose bankruptcy, but it didn't feel right for us and so we decided to give this game a go. I sure will be glad when we have officially won it!

Things have been tight lately. We have lost a significant amount of income this year (about $20,000 annually) for various reasons and while we have a healthy salary, we also still have unhealthy debt payments. So it's been slower going than I'd like, but we are powering through.

Our older son is getting married in July, so we have been putting away extra funds for the rehearsal dinner. I will be wearing the dress I wore for our daughter's wedding 6 years ago. It was only worn once and still looks lovely, so I'm happy I can squeeze into it. My future DIL's shower is next month and I have been working hard on her gift. I am making a recipe book filled with her groom's favorites.  If she hasn't already, she will soon find out that food is the way to that boy's heart.

I am more focused on an upcoming trip with DS2. We will be traveling to a medical conference for his disease and because it is on the other side of the country, will have to fly. We have never flown with the wheelchair and I am a nervous wreck. I spent hours researching nonstop flights and which planes were being used as we need one with a large enough cargo door to get the wheelchair through upright. I finally settled on the best option, bought the tickets and, two weeks later, was notified that the nonstop had been canceled and they had put us on a flight with a connection. My worst fear. (OK, not my worst, but it's up there.) I've spent gobs of time talking with the special assistance department and we are just going to have to pray the chair makes it through the transfers and to the final destination in one piece and working. I made a point of telling the airline that the chair cost $46,000 and I'd hate for them to have to replace it. Whatever it takes ...

Spring seems to have finally sprung here and I couldn't be happier. I heard a rumor that it will be May next week. I haven't had time to confirm.

Cheers to all,

Sarah
 

Too much bread ...

Hubby went to the grocery store last week. That's a scary thing, by the way. He was picking up sandwich stuff for his lunch for the week. He came home proudly telling me he had gotten fresh made sourdough bread from the store bakery and it was buy one, get one, so of course he got two loaves. I didn't pay much attention to what he had as I was tired and ready for bed, but the next morning I took one look and knew this was not good. Each loaf was HUGE - the BOGO deals at that store are typically for a small half loaf. Add to that the fact that it was not sourdough bread, just an artisan bread. I held my breath and looked for the receipt. And there it was. Two loaves. Each $5.99. No BOGO deal. He paid TWELVE DOLLARS for bread!!! While I personally think I would win in divorce court over this, I was calm when I pointed out what he had done. I also noted that when you get a BOGO deal, each item rings up half price so you don't have to buy two. And, I asked, how in the world are you going to eat that much bread in a week??

Let me tell you, he was eating that bread at a furious pace. He didn't dare leave one crumb. And I get extra points for not mentioning it again.

Meanwhile, I got a bill from a January visit to the ophthalmologist. The bill was for $149, which I thought could be correct as we hadn't met our deductible yet. I put it on my desk and the next day received my insurance statement, which said I owed $61 for the visit. I had already paid my $20 copay so by that logic, I would only owe $41. I called the doctor's office and spoke to the billing person who promised to look it up and get back to me. She called back 30 minutes later and said I was correct. I owe $41. She actually admitted that she had entered something incorrectly. But had I not questioned it, neither would she have. Just a reminder to check every single bill.

This is an expensive month. License renewals, taxes and inspections for two cars. AAA and Costco membership renewals. And $189 to the mortgage company for an escrow shortage. Thankfully no one has a birthday this month.

I get a break from keeping my granddaughter this week as my son-in-law is on Spring Break. It comes at a good time. I need a few days away from the 2-year-old emotions :) I am going to do a deep clean on the house. I actually started today and got through 2 rooms. Amazing how much accumulates in corners and underneath stored items.

Hope everyone has a great week!

Sarah
 

A good week

Yesterday was our 33rd anniversary. That still shocks me to write. Sometimes it seems like our wedding was yesterday - other times it seems like another lifetime. We went out to dinner to celebrate and spent a great deal of time talking about how blessed we are to have each other and how fortunate we have been with our children, who have all become functioning adults who still enjoy spending time with us. We know that could just as easily have not been the case. Doesn't matter how good the parents are, the kids have free will to turn out the way they choose. I guess we drew the long straw in that category.

In other big news, DS2, who has been receiving the first-ever treatment for his disease for a little over a year now, came home from water therapy to say he was able to sit on the bench (in the pool), unassisted for 5 minutes. As he is 25 and has not sat unassisted since he was 7 or 8 years old, you can imagine my reaction. I'm tearing up just typing this.

It was in the 70s here this week (that wonderful aberration is over - it's 30 something now) and we were able to get to the park with our granddaughter every day. DH was on vacation so it was nice to have another set of eyes to watch the little tornado race across the park.

Our taxes are done and they are not as bad as I feared. We will get a $144 refund from the state and will write a check to the feds for $378 - so a net loss of $234. Knowing where we stand, I have made sure we will at least break even next year. I don't like writing that check no matter how small.

Have a great weekend!

Sarah
 

New year, new outlook

Last year was a slow year in knocking down the debt. It still went down, but not by as much as in previous years. Life definitely got in the way. We also saw our income drop due to husband's job, which was good for his health but not for our bank account. I'm taking solace in the fact that since starting this blog way back when, we have stayed the course and knocked more than $125,000 off our debt. (I do NOT want to know how much interest we paid in addition to that...).

For the first time in as long as I can remember, we are going to owe taxes. The changes in the tax laws just didn't work in our favor this time. I don't think it will be all that much, but I will have to write a check in April. I have since adjusted DH's W-4 to 0 exemptions which should take care of it for next year.

Despite our debt, we have in the past few years been ratcheting up the retirement savings. DH plans to retire in 7 years, which will be about the time that it becomes necessary. He works a very physical job and although he is still in excellent health, I can see it beginning to wear on him. We are currently putting 12% in the 401k, with plans to up that again soon. In 2-3 years, we will have finally eradicated most of the consumer debt we have and can concentrate on the remaining mortgage and building some cash reserves. DH will have a nice pension, which is key to our retirement plan.

Sharon over at Midlife Balanced Money wrote a good post about her retirement planning. She makes some good points that I'm filing away. All of you youngsters, pay attention. Thirty years go by in a flash! Save now!

Life is good and the future actually looks bright.

Happy belated New Year to all!

Sarah
 

Winding down the year

December has been the usual craziness around here. DH and DS1 are UPS drivers. Enough said. This year's volume was noticeably higher - maybe the demise of Toys R Us forced toy shoppers online? They worked 60-hour, 6-day weeks from Thanksgiving until Christmas.

Somewhere amid flinging packages, DS1 managed to propose to his girlfriend, so we have a wedding coming up in 2019 ... I think I will relish being the mom of the groom this go around :)

I took my granddaughter to see Santa at the mall. She is not a fan.

DS2 kept up his tradition of holiday kidney stones. Always a good time.

We celebrated our Christmas on the 23rd so the kids could be with in-laws on Christmas Day. It was great fun and included serious belly laughs during the Saran Wrap ball game - which all have proclaimed a new tradition. I got some gift cards that will come in handy in the new year and a set of stemless wine glasses, which will also come in handy. DH collected a pile of gift cards as tips from customers, so he's good for awhile.

Our sweet granddaughter turned 2 on Christmas Eve. The big family party is tomorrow. She will be overwhelmed, but DD insists.

Christmas Day we had my parents over for a mid-afternoon lunch. It was a peaceful, stress-free day.

I am enjoying my 2-week break from keeping my granddaughter (and hoping the potty training is complete by the time she returns). I've read books, watched some Netflix series and done some cleaning and organizing. Maybe I will be ready for 2019 ...

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all. Thanks for sticking with me.

Sarah